I originally posted this on myspace back in 2005, and consider it one that needs to be posted again in the Greatest hits category. So enjoy:
NO, I did not stutter in the subject heading. However, in the interest of time (since I have papers and finals to prepare for), I’m going to make my best attempt to keep this short. Some of my lady friends have asked for me to write this since they heard the theory. You asked for it, and here it goes…..
As one of the good men that are “still left”, I’m sick and tired of being sick and tired of having to suffer for the mistakes that NIGGAS (not black brothers, but NIGGAS) make when it comes to how we treat our black women. Not everyday, but enough times, I always have to hear “he cheated on me”, “he’s verbally abusive to me”, “he doesn’t pay me any attention”, “we’ve been dating for 9 months but he won’t commit”, “we’ve been together for 4-5 years and he hasn’t talked about marriage”, but the common denominator is “I didn’t think it would be like this when I first met him”.
Granted, a couple of those complaints are about brothers who are, more or less, afraid of commitment for fear of losing freedom or getting hurt. However, those first 3, a good man wouldn’t do that to his woman. PERIOD (damn I think the rest of this blog is about to sound like a song written for Joe). But this all goes down to one thing (in my opinion): there are a lot of NIGGAS out there who are crying ‘wolf’ about being a good man, when in truth they are the wolf in sheep’s clothing themselves.
For those who don’t remember the story, allow me to recap: there was a kid in the village who wanted to get some attention, and at the same time play a joke on his village. So he would run into the village yelling ‘WOLF, WOLF’. Everyone would come ready to take the wolf out, but in truth there was no wolf to kill. A few times he did that, and after a while he lost his credibility. Then one day, the wolf actually showed up. He went into the village yelling the wolf was coming again, but since no one believed him, they weren’t prepared and the wolf came in and did his thug thizzle on the village.
NOW, bringing the analogy home: A lot of women have been lied to by NIGGAS out there saying “oooh baby, I can treat you right, I can be the right man for you, I can do this, I can do that, you will never have to want for anyone else again, etc etc”. But a few weeks (or months) later, brotha man will do wrong by you (however way he does that). But of course a woman thinks “oh, it was just that dude, I’ll have better luck next time”. But “just that dude” turns into 2, 3, 6, 7 of them. Then after a while, when a woman’s fed the same game, she thinks it’s bullshit, and her instant classical conditioning puts her in a position where she thinks that all (black) men are like the X amount of dudes that have done her dirty. As a result, their minds are so jaded that when they meet a guy like me, all they see is those dudes that did them dirty. So, with some women, I get deaded from jump, and when I ask what their issue is (other than the typical lies women give to men that translate into not being interested), they cite the examples above.
For the real brotha that would do right by his woman and wouldn’t do this to the women he deals with, thank you for being real, listening to your parents, and contributing to decreasing the trend of bitter black women who leave black men for other races or for OTHER women.
Now, for the NIGGAS who don’t fall into the category that me and some of my boys and frat bros fall into: QUIT FUCKING SHIT UP FOR US.