(Originally written 10/5/06)
I’m here at my grad assistantship running through some of the songs I downloaded by some artists I heard at a jazz festival last week when I was in Atlanta for the Black MBA Conference. I’m listening to an artist right now by the name of Frank McComb (on the real, check this guy out, he’s in the mold of Bro. Donny Hathaway where he sings and plays the Rhodes). But what stood out along with his performance was that he was part of a marriage proposal at the beginning of his set. You know it was pretty standard: the guy goes up on stage, brings his girl on to the stage, says some wonderful things about her, then gets on one knee and proposes to his woman. As she says yes, Frank starts playing his “Wedding Song” and they dance to it while on stage. I won’t lie, that touched a brotha in the heart region (especially since that will become more of a focus when I finish school). You would think that this would be a nice event right? Well………………….
How would you feel watching that…………………... when you planned to do the EXACT SAME THING tonight for the love of your life? Let me guess…………….. pretty salty. Someone who had the same idea as you not only beat you to the punch, but they had the backup music as well. Now if you try to follow suit, it won’t be a good look for you or the one you’re proposing to. So you would think this guy would renege and try on another day right? In theory, hell yeah. No one’s stealing my shine. I’ll just have to hold off so that it is unique and not repetitive. However…………. this Negro didn’t do that.
As the MC comes on stage, he puts the other guy on blast……
“I heard that……….. someone else has something to say tonight. Are you still here? OH, there he is. The brotha that talked to me earlier tonight. Say what you gotta say bro.”
So, out of sheer pride swallowing and embarrasment, he ends up doing the proposal. Of course the girl was looking at him like “you triflin’ Negro, I can’t believe this shit.” But she accepted anyway. However it made the other guy look like a straight follower. Not a good look.
Which brings me to the question: If you were in the same situation, would you go through with the proposal? Would you wait? What would you do?