In this economy where we are dealing with arguably 25% of Americans who are either out of work or underemployed, having a job nowadays is, to say the least, a blessing. However, according to an article in the Huffington Post that came out earlier this year, there are some companies who have recently made declarations that they will not accept job candidates who are not already employed. Of course in this economy, that’s a very asinine stance to take as an organization. However, some companies, as shown in the article, take greater satisfaction in “stealing away” a potential candidate from another company that they are happy with by selling them on how their company is better.
One thing I can validate is that, as someone who has been happily employed at my current place of employment for the last 2 years, I get my fair share of companies who will reach out to me about their company and how it’s better than my current company. It is what it is. But what made me ponder this analogy is a conversation I had with a classmate of mine from business school where the subject was my dating life. She was telling me, the next time I’m out in Chicago, to take her with me to whichever lounge/club I decide to go to (I don’t know if her man would go for that, but hey, that’s her problem, not mine). Here’s more of the dialogue:
RichBrand: Why should I do that?
Female Classmate: Because more women will want to talk to you.
RB: But you’re with me there; most of them will think we’re together.
FC: Yeah, but they will be more attracted to you, because another woman’s with you. You know how they say all of the good men are taken?
RB: Ummm, yeah.
FC: Exactly my point.
RB: So you are saying that me being single does not make me a good man? As if I need to be in a relationship and women get their rocks off by stealing another woman’s man.
FC: Yes and No
RB: Elaborate
FC: It’s like applying for a job. You’re more likely to get the job you want if you already have one.
When taking this away from the conversation, I started to think back on some of my dating experiences over the last couple of years. It’s funny how there is some truth to what she said. Some women love a challenge as much as men do. But at the same time, the difference between women and men is that…………… you know what, Chris Rock can explain better than I can:
My opinion: I find it hard to believe that me being single is somehow an indictment on my worth as a man. As much as I find the notion of working for a company that wants to steal me away from my current job an asinine stance, me having to have a girlfriend and validating that I’m desirable and romantically stable is just as asinine. Just because I’m single does not mean there’s something wrong with me, with you, or anybody. All of us are in our season for a reason, whether we’re single, in a good/bad relationship, good/bad marriage, divorced, or widowed. Besides, I’m a believer in karma; so ladies, what makes you think that the man you stole or that you want to steal can’t get stolen from you? And fellas, if women make you feel that your external value is lowered because no woman right now is worth your time or women are too dumb to see your worth, thereby keeping you single, then these women who have subscriptions to Neanderthal-level thinking do not need to be in your life anymore.
To my ladies, is this true? Would you rather have a man that’s “employed” and/or that a bunch of “companies” want versus a man you like that is unattached and wants you? And fellas, have other women told you this before? Has this been your experience? Let me hear your thoughts.
I think only a low caliber chick…the kind you wouldn’t want would find a man who has a woman more attractive to the extent of wanting to talk to him.
I cannot speak for every woman, but I find it extremely unattractive for a guy who is employed to try to talk to me. I cannot even count the number of times I told a guy I had a boyfriend and he responded with “So what I got a girl” as if that made his case for my number more persuasive. Yet they still always had a look of shock on their face when I responded “well then you really have no business talking to me” lol. But yeah…to me a guy who has a girl or is even on a date with someone yet still tries to talk me is just a huge red flag that he doesn’t know how to be satisfied with just one woman and that is a major turn off.
I can’t agree more with Reecie. It might be a good tool to meet women, but they’re not going ot be good women. Trying to talk to me when you have a girl is a VERY unattractive quality that gets you no where with me. I don’t want a cheater, I don’t wanna have to fight for a man’s affections. I want a man who wants ME, and knows that he has in me. Not some guy who’s head is always on swivel looking for something better. Any woman value wouldn’t settle for anything less.