Allow me to get this thought off of my mind…………….
In this bad economy, and unemployment still at a high level (and being reported inaccurately, but that’s another topic for another day), one thing that those in the job market have gotten used to are those thin letters from those many companies you dropped resumes with on Monster.com that say something to this effect:
“Thank you for expressing your interest in a position with (blank) Inc. and taking the time to interview with us. Although we enjoyed speaking with you and found your credentials impressive, we can no longer pursue your candidacy at this time and have decided to pursue candidates whose qualifications are more aligned to our needs. We will keep your resume on file for 6 (or 12) months in the event that a position more aligned with your skills comes along. Please keep in mind that its our company policy to not share feedback with candidates. We wish you the best of luck in your future career endeavors.”
I’m sure for those of you who are in graduate/professional school and/or have been in the job market in the last several years has received at least one letter comparable to this via snail mail or email. And after a while you become immune to getting them from a variety of companies. Some hit you more than others because you really wanted that job or wanted to work in that city or in the same building as that fine ass specimen you saw when you rolled to corporate headquarters to interview. As someone who spent up to a year out of work post-undergrad, I know the feeling all too well when a company rejects you, and you have to sit there and figure out why. But the why is not what this blog is about.
Now……….. just imagine for a moment………… think about your love/dating life……….. what if you adopted this method for getting rid of that dude/chick that you weren’t interested in? Now, most of us rely on the consulting firm method, which consists of ignoring phone calls, and just never calling the other person back, and hope they get the memo and move on (comparable to what Deloitte or Booz and Company will do). Now I understand how this is the safe method and allows you to not be the bad guy and make ourselves feel better about the situation. But………… I wonder if someone would have the nerve to hit someone with a letter like this:
“Thank you expressing your interest in me romantically and taking the time to hang out with me. The talks were cool as hell. Even though you’re a cool and nice person, I’m just not that into you and decided to start talking to people that are more my type. I’ll keep your number in my phone in the event that you become my type 5 years from now or I get bored and either need a free meal or need to get some, but by all means feel free to lose mine. I’m not going to get into why I don’t like you, because it won’t help at this point. But I hope you find what you’re looking for, just know it won’t be me.
PS I’m serious……….lose my number.”
Now, your best bet if you ever want to try this method is to go green and send it via an email and them immediately put rules up on the inbox to delete any incoming mail from the other person’s email address (like you can do on gmail, for example).
I’m sure you’re reading this and thinking that this is a cold method of telling someone you’re done with them and are not interested. But in the game of love, rejection comes with the territory. The presence of imperfection leads to the risk of rejection, and whether it’s in our professional or personal lives, we have to deal. But with rejection, honesty is always the best policy and lowers your risk of being stalked. LOL
Anyone bold enough to try this out-the-box method to dump those bug-a-boo’s? Let me know your thoughts.
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